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FAMILY ISN'T ALWAYS BLOOD.



I have read the above quote many times and in many different ways. I have no idea who said or wrote it first, but I am thankful it has made it's way many times over into my life. Our family life is different than many...maybe even different than most. I have always said that it is hard when some of our friends have just decided to walk out but it is such a blessing when you find the ones who are busy pushing their way in. 

The reason the above saying has taken on such powerful meaning to me is the family dynamics that I have sadly had to deal with mainly since Joseph's burn event. For whatever reason, my brother was upset with my sister over a family painting. She has it and he wants it. There is so much more to the story, but it is all hearsay as I was not in on any of the conversations. What I do know is it all came to a head about the time Joseph was care-flighted to Shriners.

During the course of those early, hell filled days, my sister somehow came up with the money to drive about 1600 miles by herself to come to our home to help take care of the kids while I was gone. She stayed for a little over three weeks. To be honest, I have not talked to my brother since that horror filled day with Joseph. He was to upset over a stupid painting.

Yeah, my blog posts are more about my thoughts....some pretty....some not. The quote above has just played over and over in my mind. Merrill and I have had total strangers reach out to help us...many have fixed meals, many have donated diapers when Joseph's diaper order got cut to so few we could not even go a week with the ones that were allotted. One drove to California just to sit with me for a week during the darkest of times when we were told that Joseph stood a good chance of not surviving his burns. 

I am saddened that one person that I have looked up to for so long...even though he is younger, let a earthly possession stand between him and knowing what his nephew was going through. 

In the mist of that, I still find joy in the blessings of so many others who have really supported this family of ours. The people in our life who truly want us in theirs. Yes, there are many times I do not understand why, but I am thankful they do.

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